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And we danced


Here's the wedding update, from my POV:
I need to get Karen's wedding ring.
I need to finish the dealing with tuxedos.
We need to have the food tasting at the hotel caterer's.
I need to get a kittle. (a sort of robe, for the wedding ceremony)
Karen needs to finish the chupah (the wedding canopy) if there's still time.
We need $1,000,000,000. Well, any significant part of that would be useful to help pay for the wedding. People have started to send gifts and it's really quite sweet.

But to get back to the important stuff, we took our first dance class together last night. I haven't taken ballroom dance since my first year of college. That was so long ago that there are high-school freshmen who weren't born yet when I took those classes.

I had the distinct pleasure of discovering in the Spring semester that I had a chronic pain problem. I dropped two of my gym classes and stopped exercising quite so much, but that didn't solve the problem. After returning from school, my family doctor diagnosed arthritis in my knees (and eventually, most other places.) I haven't taken a dance class since then.

So, we missed last week's class because I had helped to plot Karen's bridal shower. This week we started with the Tango, which is not what I would consider a 'starter' in standard dance...but what do I know? Unlike our dance instructor, I don't happen to have dance awards or been on a national dance team. I don't remember doing Tango in my ballroom dance class before, but it's been a long time. Karen's not happy with the Tango, but he started teaching Waltz before the class ended. I think we'll be okay there, if we get a chance to practice.

Whew. By the time we were done, my arms and right foot were hurting plenty. We weren't doing that much, but between my arthritis, my general out-of-shapeness, and the fact that I worked for 10.5 hours before going added up to me being tired. Karen was doing better physically, but I'm a bit more coordinated than her in these kind of things, so I think I ended up with a better outlook afterwards. My Tae Kwon Do training is good for something after all! Ballroom dance is just a funky form.

5 weeks until the wedding. 4 more weeks of dance class. Our goal: not to fall on our faces dancing at the wedding. My outlook: good. :)

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chite
Oct. 1st, 2002 06:06 am (UTC)
Where are you taking lessons?
sethcohen
Oct. 1st, 2002 06:19 am (UTC)
Follow the dancing Jews
http://www.jballroomdance.org/

He's holding classes at our synagogue on Monday nights. He'll be holding classes at other times & places, mostly when we can't go. Karen and I are only free (simultaneously) on Mondays.
chite
Oct. 1st, 2002 06:43 am (UTC)
Re: Follow the dancing Jews
Oh cool!

If you do need some private instruction (couple of lessons to add on before the wedding), I can make some suggestions. I did competitive dancing for several years and know many of the better instructors around.
sethcohen
Oct. 1st, 2002 07:32 am (UTC)
Re: Follow the dancing Jews
Thanks much. I don't know that we'll be able to (we don't have compatible work schedules, and the rest of our lives has pretty high time pressure) but thanks for letting us know.

The bigger problem, I think, will be Karen...I'm worried that she'll convince herself that she can't do it and stop trying. All we have to do is not fall over, and everyone will think we did a beautiful job. It's part of the magic of weddings.
estherchaya
Oct. 1st, 2002 03:10 pm (UTC)
Re: Follow the dancing Jews
I think that's pretty unfair of you. This has nothing to do with whether I can or can't do this. It has to do with whether WE can and in such a short period of time. I told you that my goal wasn't to be a magnificent dancer, it was to not make a fool of myself at our wedding.

I am perfectly capable of dancing, waltzing even. I love polkas. I enjoy swing even, though I suck at it. But there are other factors here...you're really, really tall, and I'm really, really short. And you're still feeling your way around this too.

PLUS, I HATE THE TANGO. Even if I could do it, I'd hate it.
sethcohen
Oct. 1st, 2002 07:59 pm (UTC)
Re: Follow the dancing Jews
Mea culpa. I suck. My apologies.

Shutting up now. Full shutting-up-mode on. Nothing else to say. Nope nope nope...
cellio
Oct. 1st, 2002 07:42 am (UTC)
remember: the band works for you, not the other way around
You need to get the band (or DJ) on your side. I suspect you can get away with dancing one slow dance (I understand that canonically it's a waltz); if the music then kicks over to mostly horas then (1) you're fine and (2) you don't even have to dance together, so one of you can sit out and not impact the other.

Not that I claim any expertise or anything. When we were planning our wedding the band leader asked me what kind of mix I wanted and I said "you've been to a lot more weddings than I have; I trust your judgement". (Yes, we had already established that things like the "chicken dance" would not be making an appearance.)
sethcohen
Oct. 1st, 2002 08:08 am (UTC)
Re: remember: the band works for you, not the other way around
He's on our side. There's such a thing as "stop payment" on checks. :)

It'll all be fine. I have faith.

Besides, we have the easy part: sitting in chairs. The guests have the tough part: lifting me.
jeannegrrl
Oct. 1st, 2002 09:11 am (UTC)
Re: remember: the band works for you, not the other way around
The guests have the tough part: lifting me

I wouldn't worry about it - our guests lifted Hillel, and I've seen folks bigger than either of you get successfully lifted. :-)
cellio
Oct. 1st, 2002 09:23 am (UTC)
Re: remember: the band works for you, not the other way around
Oh, please pass on the following warning to Karen: most wedding dresses are much more slippery than you think they are! (Satin-like dress plus vinyl chair led to this bride hanging on very ungracefully...)
estherchaya
Oct. 1st, 2002 02:38 pm (UTC)
slippery dresses
My dress is very slippery, and our chairs, if I recall correctly are fabric thankfully (if they're not, I'm going to be very perturbed).

My bigger concern is something I've seen a lot.... one person way taller or shorter, or more zealous (i.e. he/she lifts the chair before or higher than anyone else)... I'll still fall off one corner.
estherchaya
Oct. 1st, 2002 03:17 pm (UTC)
horas and bands
We are having a magnificent band play at our wedding....they're going to do a lot of horas and also some American music. I can absolutely dance horas, especially since no one will be able to see that my feet are often moving in the wrong directions.

I really don't have a serious problem dancing, provided that I'm dancing with a good strong lead. What I have a problem with is choreographed steps and having to do them in time to the music without getting to practice them in slow motion first. So I was frustrated last night, as Seth pointed out, but I was tired and cranky and it was our first lesson.


I have no doubt that we will have a simply magnificent time at our wedding, and that dancers or not, we'll party hard. ;)
cellio
Oct. 1st, 2002 07:59 pm (UTC)
Re: horas and bands
I have no doubt that we will have a simply magnificent time at our wedding, and that dancers or not, we'll party hard. ;)

Good! This is the way it's supposed to be. :-)
mscongeniality
Oct. 1st, 2002 10:38 am (UTC)
That was so long ago that there are high-school freshmen who weren't born yet when I took those classes.

Ow. That's painful to think about.
indigodove
Oct. 1st, 2002 05:04 pm (UTC)
All brides and grooms are beautiful. It is the way of the world. Don't worry to hard about having a choreographed piece. Just enjoy each other. :-)
estherchaya
Oct. 3rd, 2002 07:41 am (UTC)
choreography? Ha!
No, we're not doing a choreographed piece. I wouldn't want that anyway. But last Monday was actually (I'm not kidding) the first time I've ever danced with Seth. And it wasn't pretty. ;) I just wanted classes so that I could achieve some level of grace. I don't expect to be any good, it's just that it would be nice to be slightly more elegant than elephants clunking around. :)
indigodove
Oct. 5th, 2002 10:15 am (UTC)
Re: choreography? Ha!
You'll be lovely. Practicing is a good idea (never hurts!), but you'll both be lovely :-)
estherchaya
Oct. 3rd, 2002 08:11 am (UTC)
one more item for your list
Please don't forget that you have to go get the marriage license in Baltimore City. Otherwise, this is all for naught. (is that a word?)
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